Lady Gaga and I Share Something in Common

Hello Lovelies,

I recently watched a fantastic documentary on Netflix called Lady Gaga: Five Foot Two, which chronicles the recording of her Joanne album, her prep for the Superbowl, and her struggle with chronic pain.

I cried along with her when she was in her doctor’s office, saying “I just need someone to fix me.”

I wanted to stand up and yell that as well.  “Please, just FIX me.”

Chronic pain is one of the most unpredictable, stressful conditions one can have.  I could feel fine one day, but the next can be an entirely different story- depending on what my activity level Is, or my stress factor, how much sleep – or even what I eat.  It’s hard to pin down and tricky to diagnose and treat nerve damage.

What’s the most frustrating part of having chronic pain is that many times I can be like Gaga- working out, performing, dancing- then it hits like a ton of bricks. Strangely enough the sciatic attacks (which feel like fire running up my leg) have happened when doing every day things like grocery shopping. I was literally stopped in my tracks with my shopping cart and had to call a friend to get me. While waiting, I flagged down a store clerk to get me a motorized cart. I was so embarrassed and upset. Not only is this pain messing with my life, but I have to involve others with my struggles.

I don’t wrote this post to elicit sympathy or bring attention to myself.  This is something that I’ve been told that I may need to deal with this for the rest of my life (which I’m not exactly accepting; we’ll see about that). But I write this because chronic pain is something many people are silently dealing with, and some are in real dire need of help. Some have turned to narcotics to try and get through the day and unfortunately end up hooked. Others drink. Some grit through it with basic pain meds. I’ve been dealing with it with basic meds, but I would just love to not have to take medicine anymore.

In the meantime, I’m enjoying all that I can and seeking that something that will fix me.  Lady Gaga- I feel ya, girl.  Hang in there. We’ve got this.  

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Time for a Makeover: Body, Mind, and Hair!

Hello Lovelies!

I’ve been quiet on the blog lately, mostly because I’ve been busy making myself and my life over! 

You know when you get the feeling that something needs to change? I’d been feeling a bit stressed lately, and as a result my rosacea flared up. Ugh! Nothing I tried was helping to keep the redness and the little breakouts down…until my friend Lisa turned me on to Rodan & Fields. 

The curse of the Irish, rosacea!

The curse of the Irish, rosacea!

Lisa suggested the Soothe regimen, which included a mild cleanser, treatment lotion, moisturizer, and a gentle SPF. After about two weeks, the rosacea has calmed WAY down. Plus, my skin is super glowy and soft! Rodan & Fields also has skin regimens for acne and anti aging. THESE PRODUCTS ARE WORTH EVERY PENNY!

No makeup, and NO PHOTO TOUCH UP. My skin looks so much better!

No makeup, and NO PHOTO TOUCH UP. My skin looks so much better!

I also decided to get a better makeup to keep my complexion looking fantastic, so I bought the Bare Minerals starter kit. I’ve got primer, the mineral foundation, a warming bronzer, and the finishing Mineral Veil. Here I am with just the foundation & bronzer, then a full makeup look:

With the Bare Minerals products on.

With the Bare Minerals products on.

My "done" look. Love the glow!

My “done” look. Love the glow!

ANNNND….I decided it was time to tackle my weight. I’m in my 40s dealing with back issues, and it’s not going to get any better if I don’t take better care of myself. So, I started changing my diet and made exercise a priority. After about three weeks, I am 6.5 lbs down with 3.5 inches off my bod! 

A great workout day!

A great workout day!

THEN… I had to change the hair, of course! So I went to my favorite color, purple. I just love the hue and makes me feel happy:)

Out for Girl's Night!

Out for Girl’s Night!

Are YOU making changes to your life? I’d love to know. I’m planning on sharing food and exercise tips I’ve learned on The Divine Mz M as well. Let’s get out of our cocoons and become the butterflies we are meant to be!

Love, laughter, and shoes –

xo Melanie.

 

Fear of the “What If”

This cute sundress was FREE! Bag, Nine West.

This cute sundress was FREE!
Bag, Nine West.

Hello lovelies,

The past couple of months have been filled with lots of changes, ups and downs, and a recent health scare. I’m a pretty resilient person, however, this latest episode has brought the worst visitor in my life, the What If.

Two days ago, I was trying to pick up some larger pieces of cardboard all at once. My footing slipped, and suddenly a HUGE shot of pain ripped down my right leg. I gasped, and I fell forward. Flashes of what happened to me the last time this happened filled my mind. I ended up having back surgery; I prayed it wouldn’t be the same fate.

Thankful to be standing!

Thankful to be standing!

One visit to the ER and a shot for pain later, I was on the mend again. Thankfully after taking it easy for a day, I felt fine again.

But the question now lingers, “what if?”

I am hoping that this episode was a freak occurrence with my sciatica, but WHAT IF it happens again when…

we go for a hike

swim in the ocean

dance in my kitchen

pick up my cat?

Color dress 4

I don’t like this visitor, Mr. What If.  Living fearlessly pursuing my goals is important to me. To second guess or be scared of trying is something I do not want to begin doing.

Accepting that nerve damage has changed some things for me has been difficult. However, I need to keep Mr. What If quiet so I can focus on the things I CAN and WANT to do.

Like rocking a free dress from Airman’s Attic and going on a date with the Hubby, for instance:) Thought I’d try some dark grey and violet shadow for a new smoky eye, too.

Color dress 2

Breaking away from fear isn’t easy. However, I will not live my life running from it. So, bring it, Mr. What If.

What If….I do everything I dream of? Here’s hoping.

Until next time –

Love, laughter, and shoes –

xoxo Melanie.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You Say It’s My Blogaversary: The Divine Mz M is 1 Year Old!

How time flies…!

One year ago, I was dealing with some severe back pain issues which limited the amount of activity I was comfortable doing.  Creating The Divine Mz M (formerly Curves Rule!) became a way for me to feel like I was still contributing something worthy. I had never blogged before, and I was worried that no one would bother reading anything I had to share.

Flash forward one year, I got my back surgery, the pain is greatly reduced, and The Divine Mz M has over 1,000 followers!

I have followers from all walks of life!

I have followers from all walks of life!

THANK YOU, my dear readers, for reading and sharing my fashion musings, my calls for more acceptance for all sizes, and for commenting on my posts!

As a big thank you, I’m doing a few giveaways over the next couple of months! Here’s the first one (and it’s a doozy!):

My friend Jessica (who lives in Paris – lucky!) is offering a Thirty One Gifts Makeup bag, which I am going to stuff with several sample sized makeup goodies! We’re talking the cool stuff from Birchbox and Ipsy, yo!

Me and Jessica!

Me and Jessica!

Lots of space to hold travel size shampoo & lotion, too!

Lots of space to hold travel size shampoo & lotion, too!

This makeup bag comes in other prints/colors, so if you are the lucky winner, I’ll let you know the choices!

And hey…if you are a Thirty One Gifts fan, or if you would like to get some VERY AFFORDABLE and PERSONALIZED gifts for your friends, check out my Online Party! LOTS of cool bags, totes, cosmetic bags, thermal lunch bags, for under $30!

Again, thank you all! If you’re a blogger, PLEASE leave me your links! Let’s make this next year the biggest year yet!

Love, laughter, and shoes –

xx Melanie,

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Tuesday Shoe Day SOS!

One of my favorites!  Heels, JustFab.

One of my favorites!
Heels, JustFab.

 

Anyone who knows me is aware that I LOVE shoes. I think it’s safe to say I’m addicted. I’ve been known to be stopped cold in my tracks by a gorgeous pair while strolling downtown! Let’s just say if I had the means, I’d definitely give Carrie Bradshaw a run for her money!

Carrie Hello Lover

But here’s a hard slap of reality I’m facing today. I have an old injury to my left knee that’s flaring up, and wearing heels makes it hurt worse. Yesterday, I was feeling all sassy in a newer pair of watercolor print Just Fab heels (so adorable!), and just walking down our stairs made me wince. I actually said to the Hubby, “could you grab my leopard sneaks?”

Now defeated, I am going to have to retire the higher heels for awhile while my knee recuperates.

So, CALLING ALL BLOGGERS AND SHOE LOVERS! SOS!!!

What are some stylish, comfortable low heel/flat shoes I can wear with dresses? I have new skirts and body con dresses that need something sharp!

PLEASE leave brand names, links, etc. I don’t have a ton of time to browse and don’t know what’s good. THANK YOU in advance, I really appreciate it!

Until then, I will put my 4 and 5 inchers in shoe bags, hoping to see them soon. Sigh.

Love, laughter, and shoes…

xx Melanie.

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