What “Being Fat” Has Taught Me

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Hello All!

I just celebrated a birthday (I’m keeping the number a secret – for now!) and I’ve been reflecting on the changes I’ve gone through in the last few years.

After a car accident two years ago, I injured my back and my ability to exercise got compromised. My weight went up, my size grew from a size 12 to a 14/16, and I realized that I had become fat.

At first, my size depressed me. I felt unsexy and undesirable. Not being able to go into just any store and find my size added to my funk.

I’m a strong believer that “everything happens for a reason,” and I’ve learned lessons and developed a stronger sense of compassion throughout this chapter in my life.

1. Size Doesn’t Equate Sexiness.

After I discovered blogging and found sites such as The Curvy Fashionista, Daily Venus Diva, and Tess Munster, there are a LOT of sexy, confident, and inspirational curvy women out there. They own their size and make it work. I’ve learned that it’s not my shell that’s sexy; it’s the way I own it! I wasted time during my smaller days obsessing over “needing to lose 10 lbs” versus living in the moment. I won’t obsess any more.

2. Fashion is Still Fun!

True, there are some retailers I can’t shop from now. However, I’ve discovered Forever 21 Plus, Deb, Asos Plus, Elloquii, H&M, and Zara. Thankfully, more retailers are getting on board and adding additional sizes with fashion-forward styles. I’m so glad I can still enjoy clothes!

Werk!

Werk!

3. Don’t Hide.

Fat people (especially women) have been conditioned to be ashamed of their bodies. We don’t want to draw attention, we hide in bulky clothes, and walk around as if apologetic for our size. I’ve learned that life does not stop because I’ve gained weight. I still have a voice and talent to contribute. If someone seems uncomfortable because I’m fat, that’s their issue. I can’t control that. However, I can control how I deal with my weight day to day.

4. Everyone Has Body Issues!

Recently, the Hubby and I went to a cookout that his work was hosting. The event took place by a beach, so naturally a number of people were swimming and sunning. What struck me was the number of body self loathing comments from these fit military people! These weren’t the “competitive” type of body comparison comments (I’m so fat – no, you’re not, I’m fat!), but a sincere wistfulness to look better. I realized we all have our body issues. Isn’t it a shame we can’t “just be”?

So, the takeaway for me is –

Sure, I would like to lose weight. My energy would be better, it’s easier on my back (which is doing much better!), and it’s good for my overall health. I believe that I will end up losing weight as I continue to get stronger. But, I’m not going to stop fully living my life or being happy because I’m fat.

And if I do go down in size, I’m not going to cringe at my pictures or “fat shame” myself. I am still ME!

I hope we all can embrace who we are for what we are!

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WHAT I’M WEARING:

Maxi Dress – FOREVER 21 PLUS

Necklace – H & M

Sandals – FOREVER 21

Bra – VICTORIA’S SECRET

Earrings – thrift shop find!

Love, laughter, and shoes –

xx Melanie!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Queen for a Day and Giveaways!

I feel like a queen because I won a voucher from W Diamonds Co! And with the voucher I bought this lovely Finberry Crown Rose Gold colored necklace! Not only did I receive the necklace, but they included a 10 (British) pound coupon for another purchase. What will I choose?!!!

W Diamonds is doing more giveaways on their Twitter account, so be sure to follow @wdiamondsco!

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Wrapped in a lovely box with a satin ribbon!

Wrapped in a lovely box with a satin ribbon!

Speaking of Twitter and giveaways, have you followed me @DivineMzM? I retweet giveaways! PLUS, I’m going to Paris this weekend and I’ll be picking up something special for my first giveaway!

Are YOU having a giveaway? Please leave me your blog’s link!

Even if you’re not, leave me your link. I always follow!

BY THE WAY…check out my newest article on Daily Venus Diva!

Love, laughter, and shoes!

xx Melanie.

 

WHAT I’M WEARING:

Lace top – H&M

Necklace – W DIAMONDS CO.

Gold & Silver earrings – ZALES (gift from my hubby!)

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#OOTD: MizMel’s Got a JustFab New Bag!

So I think you all know by now I have a shoe/bag problem:) My addiction is fueled by the affordable and fierce style at JustFab. Today, I debuted my new bag (Equity) for my date night with the hubby!

The Equity Bag -very roomy and the perfect size shoulder strap!

The Equity Bag -very roomy and the perfect size shoulder strap!

What else do I love about JustFab? They make a special boutique for me every month (many times I like what they pick, but I can always choose other things) and practically EVERYTHING they sell (bags, shoes, jeans) is $39!  And for those of you who live in the States, you get FREE SHIPPING!! I have an APO address, so I pay an extra $9, but the quality of everything I’ve bought has been worth the extra price.

Even better…if you don’t want to buy something one month, just skip it by the 5th and no obligation. Plus, with any purchase, you earn points towards freebies!

AND…if you refer a friend to sign up, you get a $10 credit! So, if you sign up, I’d LOVE it if you mention me!

(Melanie Robinson, 🙂

OH! So, here are the JustFab “Carrie” boots I wore tonight, too!

Love the little "diamonds"!

Love the little “diamonds”!

Hubby & I were going out to dinner, and I hadn’t worn my Forever21 Plus faux leather pants yet. To my surprise, I rocked them! And let me say…Hubby LOVED them. Just a little touch of naughty!

Mesh trim on the side!

Mesh trim on the side!

Ready for Friday night date!

Ready for Friday night date!

In other news…my newest article for DailyVenusDiva is up! Check it out and please comment!

Enjoy your weekend! Love, laughter, and shoes!

Feelin' fierce!

Feelin’ fierce!

xx, Melanie.

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I’m a Liebster Award Nominee!

How cool! The sweet Alley Tiffy of Classygirlschic nominated me for the Liebster Award, which is recognition from members from the blogging community! I’m on a mission to grow my audience, and I want to help other bloggers grow as well.

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Here are the rules:

You must link back to the person who nominated you.
You must answer the questions given to you.
You must pick 11 nominees to answer 11 questions you choose for them.
You cannot nominate the person who nominated you.
You must tell the nominees that they have been nominated by you.
So, here are the answers to what Ms. Tiffy asked me:)

1)What is your favorite makeup brand?

I think it’s safe to say I’m a big fan of Clinique. Their products work great on my sensitive skin.

2) Where do you like to shop the most often?
I’ve been doing a lot of online shopping since moving to Germany (mostly because the dollar is cheaper than euro), and I am very happy with everything I’ve bought from Forever21. Their Plus line is stylish, well made, and very affordable.
3) If you were to splurge on an item, what would you buy?
I’d die to buy some Jimmy Choo or Christian Louboutin shoes!
4) Where do you want to travel to? We NEED to see London before our time is done in Europe!
5)What is your style? I’d say at the moment it is “Comfy Chic with Diva Flair.”
6)Do you spend more time on your hair, deciding what you are going to wear or makeup?
Definitely the outfit. My hair is super easy to do, and I’ve got my makeup routine down to a science. But dressing is still tough for me to do in a hurry!
7) What is your favorite trend at the moment? The awesome fringed bags that are popping up everywhere on the spring runways!

8)What is your favorite animal? Cat:) We have two.

9)Do you play any sports? If so, what are they? I’m not able to do anything at the moment because of back surgery, but I enjoy volleyball the most.
10) What are your hobbies? BLOGGING, ha! Otherwise, dancing and karaoke.
11) What are your favorite songs? That’s hard for me. I love so many, but my current favorite is “Let it Go” from FROZEN.
Now it’s my turn to nominate!
OK lovelies – congrats! Here are your questions!
1. What beauty product can you NOT live without?
2. Who is your “style icon”?
3. Which beauty product is worth paying extra for?
4. Which fashion trend are you a fan of?
5. Is there a current fashion trend you’re NOT a fan of?
6. If you could be dressed by any designer, who would it be?
7. Which fashion publication do you look forward to reading?
8. Is there a TV show you are totally obsessed with? Which one?
9. Which celebrity has the best red carpet style?
10. What is your favorite place to visit?
11. How would you describe your fashion style?
There you go! Don’t forget to link me back with your answers! 
Chanel. Always a Classic!

Chanel. Always a Classic!

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DailyVenusDiva.com Rocks!

What made me literally SQUEAL with delight today? Seeing my newest article on DailyVenusDiva.com‘s website! I had my first article  (regarding my love affair with Clinique products) published with this wonderful online magazine last month, and thankfully Editor in Chief Stephanie Penn took another chance on me! I’m looking forward to doing a lot more with DailyVenusDiva. It’s not often enough that women of all sizes and color are celebrated for who they are, and this magazine is all about that appreciation. Curves definitely rule!

To read my article, “Finally – A Retailer Goes ‘Real’: Retailer Aerie Pledges To Stop Retouching Photos” click here!

I’m not quite ready to walk around in my heels, but I couldn’t resist pulling out one of my favorite pairs in anticipating of spring! The weather in the Ramstein area has been curiously mild for winter (perpetually stuck in the 40s) and not one flake of snow, but it does rain quite a bit and the days tend to be a bit starved for sunlight. Here’s hoping for more color soon!!!

#OOTD:

Leopard trim cotton cardigan, Saks Fifth Avenue. Bag, Chanel. Shoes, Charlotte Russe.

Leopard trim cotton cardigan, Saks Fifth Avenue.
Bag, Chanel.
Shoes, Charlotte Russe.

I LOVE the detail on the Forever21 Plus leggings!

I LOVE the detail on the Forever21 Plus leggings!

Debuting this new H&M baseball style T shirt!

Debuting this new H&M baseball style T shirt!

Dreaming of visiting Paris again soon!  "Eiffel" earrings, Claire's Accessories.

Dreaming of visiting Paris again soon!
“Eiffel” earrings, Claire’s Accessories.

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Thanks to Diane (my stepmom!) for the beautiful Chanel bag! I am very blessed:)

What do YOU hope to pull out of your closet for spring?

Love, laughter, and shoes!

xoxo Melanie.

The Comeback Begins (and new exciting things to come!)

I’ve mentioned before that I’ve been dealing with a back injury since a car accident in 2012, and two days ago, I got surgery to have a disc shaved down so my sciatic nerve is no longer being pressed on. Thankfully, I am now feeling sensation in my right leg and foot again, which I hadn’t felt in about three months! I’m home from the hospital, recovering well due to the fabulous care of my hubby. Of course I am quite sore, but this is to be expected for awhile. In a few weeks, I should be able to resume most of my everyday activities.

The major downside is that I won’t be getting around very much for a bit (and I have some CUTE new leggings and boots from Forever 21 to show you all!) but until I am feeling and looking better, I will post about interesting finds and fashion news I come across.

Here’s something I’m VERY excited about – I was selected to write for DailyVenus.com as a contributing blogger! I just received the notification, so more news to come about this new adventure soon! DailyVenus.com is a fantastic site that has news about fashion, beauty standard issues, and spotlights on plus size celebrities. I encourage everyone to check it out!

I also would like to give kudos out to a fellow blogger (and friend) “Signe Savant” who writes Thedailysavant.com. She has been featured on Lucky Magazine’s website as a contributor, and I’m thrilled for her! She and I are both significant others of military men, work as youth instructors, and course, love fashion! Her insights are great, so please check her out! She does some terrific giveways (and I lucked out and won one! More details on that later!!!).

Speaking of giveaways, I’m planning on starting some very soon! Keep reading and you just might snag a goody or two!

As I recover, I will be dreaming of the day I can wear fierce heels again like these Karolina cage heels from JustFab! So, I will think of these as I do my physical therapy!

I'm dreaming of cage heels!

I’m dreaming of cage heels!