Tuesday Shoe Day SOS!

One of my favorites!  Heels, JustFab.

One of my favorites!
Heels, JustFab.

 

Anyone who knows me is aware that I LOVE shoes. I think it’s safe to say I’m addicted. I’ve been known to be stopped cold in my tracks by a gorgeous pair while strolling downtown! Let’s just say if I had the means, I’d definitely give Carrie Bradshaw a run for her money!

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But here’s a hard slap of reality I’m facing today. I have an old injury to my left knee that’s flaring up, and wearing heels makes it hurt worse. Yesterday, I was feeling all sassy in a newer pair of watercolor print Just Fab heels (so adorable!), and just walking down our stairs made me wince. I actually said to the Hubby, “could you grab my leopard sneaks?”

Now defeated, I am going to have to retire the higher heels for awhile while my knee recuperates.

So, CALLING ALL BLOGGERS AND SHOE LOVERS! SOS!!!

What are some stylish, comfortable low heel/flat shoes I can wear with dresses? I have new skirts and body con dresses that need something sharp!

PLEASE leave brand names, links, etc. I don’t have a ton of time to browse and don’t know what’s good. THANK YOU in advance, I really appreciate it!

Until then, I will put my 4 and 5 inchers in shoe bags, hoping to see them soon. Sigh.

Love, laughter, and shoes…

xx Melanie.

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Fat Shame from Two Sides of the Scale

A lot can happen in 10 years. Physically, 10 years ago, I had a very fit body when I was a gypsy professional actress/singer/dancer. Mind you, I was a size 8 and I felt a lot of pressure to get back to a size 4, which I was a few years before then. To stay that size 4, I had to work out endlessly and deny myself real meals. I recall a lot of protein bars and salads.

My focus changed over the next couple of years from performing to teaching, and the weight crept on slowly to a size 10. After a car accident in 2012, my ability to work out the way I usually did diminished and now I am a size 14. According to most statistics, I am considered to be an average size of most American women.  So if I am considered “average,” why is my size not available in most retail outlets? Or if it is, why is it in a plus size department?

When I go to shop, if it is a store that does not specifically cater to a curvier woman, I notice two things: the clerks ignore me, or, there is a pitiful selection of “plus size” in a far corner of the store. What I do find in that little corner are big smocks, oversized t shirts, and maybe some jeans. Nothing cool for this fashionista.

On the other side, sometimes when I go into a plus department or plus size specialty store, the clerks give me a basic greeting and then go away, and as I pull through the racks hoping to score a great find, I feel glares from other customers. One lady said to me as I browsed, “you’re too skinny to wear these clothes.” I’m too skinny?!!! Tell that to the “straight size” stores!

I have entered what it appears to be “No Woman’s Land,” the gray area of the size 14. Too big for most fashion designers, but too small to belong to the Plus Size club (even though I technically am a plus). I didn’t like feeling pressure as a size 8 to be smaller for casting directors, and I don’t like having the pressure to change to be accepted in fashion.

I began this blog, CURVES RULE! as a way to deflect those feelings of pressure and to accept myself for who I am, at any size. As I continue to heal from my injury, I look forward to becoming more active and feel better. However, when I do lose weight, it will be because I’m being more active, not because I have to see a certain number on my scale. Photos of myself at a heavier weight will not be burned or hidden away, nor will I scorn myself. No matter my size, I am still me and deserve to be respected.

Statistics claim I’m “average,” but I think I’m pretty exceptional. Here’s to all you “averages” out there!

Dress, Forever 21 Plus. Shoes, "Something Blue" Manolo Blahnik.

Dress, Forever 21 Plus. Shoes, “Something Blue” Manolo Blahnik.

 

Fashion Can Still be Fun

IMG_20131122_173856 (2)One of the challenges I’ve had since the accident is finding cute shoes that are comfortable. I have several pairs of fierce heels, notably the “Carrie Something Blue” Manolo Blahniks (as pictured) that my wonderful husband bought as a wedding present (and I wore them on our wedding day), but those shoes along with all the hot pairs sit in their boxes for now. However, I’ve found that Forever 21 and JustFab put out comfortable and affordable shoes. Graceland is a brand that I’ve come to collect while living in Germany, and one of my favorite pairs I’ve bought is these Union Jack flats. They work great with leggings and dresses!

As a curvy gal, I’m always on the lookout for styles that fit and flatter. For the longest time, it seemed as if anyone over a size 12 was out of luck when it came to finding beautiful, trendy clothes. Luckily, in the last few years, more designers are emerging with fantastic lines, including: Ashley Stewart, Marina Rinaldi, and Eden Miller, who was the first designer to show at NY Fashion Week this past fall! However, since I LOVE clothes and we (hubby and I) like saving money, some of my favorite affordable styles come from Forever 21 Plus and Charlotte Russe. Every fall, I still have that “back to school” shopping itch and I fell in love with the Peplum Dress that Forever 21 puts out. I’m modeling the blue one with gray Charlotte Russe leggings.

One wonderful piece of good news is that IMG Models is branching out and representing more diverse models, including “true” plus size models. Not to knock the lovely tall size 12 ladies that are considered plus size in the modeling world, but let’s face it, most of us think of “plus size” to mean extra curve. The 5’10 size 12 ladies just look normal (which is great!), but we shorter gals with an extra curve like seeing models who represent US a bit more! So, congrats to IMG for paving the way for all of us!

The "Carrie Something Blue" Manolo Blahniks

The “Carrie Something Blue” Manolo Blahniks